Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Why Game of Thrones Appeals to Women

Ygritte
When reading Game of Thrones, one might initially think that with all the swords, blood, and sex that it’s a fantasy series for men. Some have even described it as being a “male trashy romance novel”.

Why is it then, that more than half of George R.R. Martin’s fans are women?

This Telegraph just published an article discussing the phenomenon after interviewing the author himself. Martin admits he’s a feminist, believing that both men and women should be treated equally, and in his stories he does treat them equally as complex and 3 dimensional human beings.

Maergery Tyrell
How is Martin able to delve into the mind of a youthful girl?

Martin: “Yes, you're right I've never been an eight year old girl, but I've also never been an exiled princess, or a dwarf or bastard. What I have been is human. I just write human characters.'”

Why do women love Martin’s characters?

Martin: “Some women hate the female characters. But importantly they hate them as people, because of things that they've done, not because the character is underdeveloped. Male or female, I believe in painting in shades of grey. All of the characters should be flawed; they should all have good and bad, because that's what I see. Yes, it’s fantasy, but the characters still need to be real.”

Asha/Yara Greyjoy
That being said, what does it mean? Emily Nussbaum from the New Yorker wrote that the books are “insight into what it means to be excluded from power: to be a woman, or a bastard, or a ‘half man” With those words, I think she nailed the heart of the matter on the head.

Launching off from Nussbaum, I believe people should not be so quick to critique the novel from an exclusively feminist perspective. Instead, they should recognize all the characters excluded from power and how they struggle to gain it. The modern reader can identify with the characters because they are so real, and almost everyone can find a character they personally identify with in one form or another. We are all struggling to gain power on some level, whether it is in our careers, family lives, love lives, or even with ourselves. 

Food for Thought Regarding Some of the Women in GOT

Daenerys Targaryen 

Daenerys Targaryen and Drogon
She starts as one of the weakest characters and grows to become one of the most powerful.
o   In the beginning, she’s sexually and verbally abused by her brother, Viserys, who essentially sells her to the Dothrakis for an army. Whereas any other novel might treat her like a damsel in distress; GOT shows Dany assimilate into the Dothraki society, fall in love with her husband, grow favor amongst the people, and assert her influence and beliefs to get what she wants. She is nurturing and kind though rules with a firm hand and isn’t afraid of bloodshed
o   Most fiction novels depict characters as very 1 dimensional. They will show women as nurturing and kind never wanting to indulge in bloodshed and appear weak because of it. In GOT, even though Dany would prefer diplomacy and nurturing over violence, she knows that has has to get her hands dirty to gain the power necessary to rule justly. She appeals to the audience because her genuine kindness doesn’t compromise her fortitude.

o   She knows that her family has a rich history of both honor and madness. She fears the madness, yet doesn’t let the infamy hold her back.
o   Usually when a woman is depicted as sexually active with multiple partners, they are immediately written off as evil or a whorish. However, Daenerys is not villainized by her sexual desires. This is partially accomplished by showing her faithfulness. Although she desires and indulges in sexual pleasures with her servants while single, she’s faithful to her husband Khal Drogo and even her lover Daario Naharis. She also doesn’t use her sexuality to lead people on. Though Jorah Mormont loves her, she never leads him on nor uses her body intentionally to get himto do her bidding. This character aspect appeals to the modern women who wishes to indulge in sexual pleasures while not being perceived as “whorish”. 

Cersei Lannister
Cersei Lannister
o   Like Dany, she is sexually active, but what makes her seem whorish is that she doesn’t remain faithful to those she loves, and that she uses her body to influence people. It doesn’t help that she cheated on her loveless husband for her brother. Even so, I could get past the infidelity and the incest disgust if she remained faithful to Jaime. But she doesn’t. She does a lot of other people to gain their favor and learn secrets while her brother Jaime remains completely faithful to her. The difference lies in loyalty and faith. The books and show constantly point out that her only good point is her love for her children
o   Although I don’t think her love for her children is her only good point, it is one to be noted. To be honestly, there’s not a whole lot to say. She does whatever necessary to give her children the greatest possible future. Whatever necessary.

o   To many fans, her greatest redeeming quality is that she feels left out of this world. She feels she’s fit to be King or ruler, but her womanhood prevents her to gain any real power. She even admits that she should have been born a man. Instead, she does what she can from the sidelines to grant her children success and keep her Queenhood. She constantly mentions how she was more suited to be a man wielding a sword than a woman.

o   Readers hate her for her cruelty, but sympathize her, because she wants power and sexual freedom, but feels trapped by her position as woman and queen to do so. However, readers know there are a slew of other female characters in the story able to achieve everything Cersei wants without being a total bitch. Characters like Dany, Arya, Asha, and Brienne. Cersei just doesn’t know how to do it right! Perhaps what makes Cersei so vulnerable is the fact that she loves her children-- same as Catelyn.

Catelyn Stark
Catelyn Stark
o   Just like Cersei, perhaps what makes her so vulnerable is the fact that she loves her children. In a way it blinds her from any other ambition. Many fans dislike her because she tries to influence Robb’s decisions and repeatedly makes “poor” decisions based upon her desire to keep all her children safe. 




Sansa Stark
Sansa Stark
o   Another character who many readers despise. She constantly makes poor decisions based upon her childish illusions that men and knights treat everyone with honor and dignity. Although it’s frustrating to read, it’s understandable considering her age and beliefs. A small group of fans like Sansa because she learns and grows more wise throughout her peril, though at a slower rate than other characters. She learns to influence Joffery with little things by playing off his ego and joy of the suffering of others. She also learns the power of home and family. I have a feeling she’ll surprise us in the upcoming books. 



Arya Stark
Arya Stark
o   Fans love her because despite her youth, she has a strong sense of self right from the get go. She knows she’s uninterested in being a “lady” and would rather play with swords and learn to fight than sew and sing songs. Her family enables her to develop these skills despite societal rules. When her father died and she had to go into hiding to avoid being caught and used as a pawn, she gains the freedom to learn traditionally “boyish” skills and put them into practice. She develops into a full-fledged killer.

o   She also has a strong sense of home and love for her family right from the get go as well. Whereas Sansa often shrugged this off, Arya always had it. After she went into hiding, she constantly struggles between forgetting her past to move forward, and hold on to her “Starkhood”. She never is really able to let it go regardless of her efforts.

Brienne of Tarth
Brienne of Tarth
o   She's just like Arya in that she isn't particularly pretty and prefers swordplay, Brienne is tall and ugly-- but a great swordswoman. Perhaps her ugliness turned her away from normal feminine activities because she knew that she could never be great at being a womanly woman.         

o   It’s ironic how Brienne is the perfect knight though most don’t realize or appreciate it due to her womanhood. She shows true focus and loyalty to those she is in employ to like Renly, Catelyn, and Jaime. She loves Renly in the way that the old chivalry dictates a knight love his queen. She is as good at swordplay as the Kingslayer himself, and it must have taken a lot to get to that point.

Here's a nifty article about a writer who compares the way people treat Brienne in the novels to how people treat ugliness and beauty in modern society.

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Why Katniss Everdeen Is A New Role Model

I apologize for being on the back end of the bell curve with all of this. Although the Hunger Games books were written a while ago, and the movie has been out for a while, I hadn’t read or seen the story until just recently—and I love it.

What is so refreshing is that the lead protagonist is Katniss Everdeen, a young strong female who provides emotional and financial support for her family. She never thinks about her looks as an asset for success. Instead, she relies on her intelligence and physical hunting prowess to survive in a world governed by a cruel, overbearing government. Although there is a strong love triangle in the story, Katniss’s looks and sexuality are never part of it. Her allure comes from her personality and spirit. When Katniss enters the games she has a makeup team and stylist who make her look beautiful to the society’s standards; Katniss doesn’t reject it, but she doesn’t really see it as important to her person.

What is even more refreshing is that our society is eating up the stories and loving it. Usually bestsellers have male protagonists, not female ones. The female protagonists who do grace best sellers are usually not portrayed in such a strong light. Way to go Suzanne Collins! Way to go Society!

For the movie, Jennifer Lawrence was cast and she provided a naturally beautiful look to the character. Yes, the actress is beautiful; but in a natural way that most done up Hollywood actresses lack. Lawrence seems like a lovely girl you used to live next to or something like that. 

Jennifer Lawrence as Katniss Everdeen

Now, if you haven’t read Catching Fire or The Mockingjay, don’t read further.

Although the first book in the series is a masterpiece, I was not as pleased with how Collins treated the second and third books.

Stylistically, she used much more exposition than she did in The Hunger Games. She used a certain technique over and over where Katniss is in the heat of an intense action scene but gets knocked out somehow, then Katniss (and the reader) discover the action in a second hand account. It’s ok to use this technique in some cases, but Collins does it so much and even cheats the reader out of being in the heat of the moment in the final climax scene of capturing the President.

I also was frustrated with how Katniss's character started out so strong and brave even on and off the battlefield in the first book and got progressively weaker with the second and third books. Although it makes sense that she would suffer mental trauma through all she’s been through, it was painful to read. I looked up to Katniss because she was able to stay strong through all the hardships and come out on top, in a way, she doesn’t really come out on top at the end. Sure she ends up with someone she loves and has children, but everything she was before died. I identified with Katniss’s character so much that the fact that she weakened towards the end made me fear that there is no hope for me when I go through hardships. I know that’s not the case, but it is how I perceived it. I know others perceive it much differently. Here's someone else's take on Katniss.

Whether you are man or woman you should check out The Hunger Games! Better yet, teens should read the books to learn about strength and that beauty and sexuality is not a woman’s best attribute.




Tuesday, August 23, 2011

The Golden Age

So one thing that enters my mind often is how society is cruel to the older female woman. When a man ages, oftentimes they look better- that the age lines, grey hair, and filling out in the face makes him just as appealing as if he were in their twenties. Society is not too kind to aging women... smile lines and wrinkles are more a sign of age and death than maturity. And it's a shame, because there are so many beautiful older women. I actually would like to interview my friend from college who is in his twenties but attracted to women 40 and older. He was completely enamored with our 60 year old professor, and I have to admit she was lovely. There was something about her many men in the class daydreamed about.

My mom is in her early 50s and she said that she was at the store and saw a man in his 30s and smiled at him. She said she looked all pretty and dressed up, but when she smiled at him she received no reaction, and then she realized, "oh wait, I'm not young and attractive anymore." And this made me sad... Sad that society does not smile upon the female in her 50s, and it also made me worried for my own future. There will come a time when I am no longer appealing.... and I'll have to make sure that I have a solid sense of self when that happens so that I don't rely on the affection and attention of others for self assurance.

As a way to contemplate the aging female. Here are just a few pictures of some of the most beautiful Hollywood Actresses in their 20s and then their 50s. (I have more but I might use them for another post)


Jane Seymour



God, if someone looks just as good as she did in her 20's it's Jane Seymour. She's 57 in this picture and she looks fantastic. She was and still is one of the most stunningly beautiful actresses in my opinion. I love that smart quirky thing she does on the left corner of her mouth... it's so subtly sexy. And those big doe-like brown eyes of her are just mesmerizing. In both pictures she just looks so sure of herself and happy with her appearance and life. Damn. I hope I look as good as Jane Seymour when I'm 57!


Rita Hayworth



Rita Hayworth has this bubbly carefree beauty in a Holly-Go-Lightly sort of way. Her big bright brown eyes and approachable smile make her the sort of girl that could win the heart of anyone, like Orson Wells. Although in the picture of her in her 50s she has a worn out expression, I feel she aged very well... very naturally. Her mouth is a bit taut as if it's holding a secret. Actually, there's something about her mouth in the second picture that reminds me of Monica Bellucci. I love that she continues to wear her hair long and wavy with that adorable heart-shaped hairline. Just Beautiful!


Lauren Bacall



It's a bit odd to me that Bogart and Bacall fell in love because I feel that they both have the same look in their faces. This smoke in the room lazy droopy relax of the muscles and the eyelids that reveal that they are suave and cool and collected that that they don't need to try to be recognized. That they don't give a care about anyone or anything. Lauren Bacall seems to hold that same looseness in the face even in this picture of her in her 50's but there is this womanly wiseness that she gained in her eyes, a cruel disappointment in her mouth.

Elizabeth Taylor



Elizabeth Taylor always seemed to be one of those actresses who were gilded in stardom. I mean, just look at the picture on the left. She knew what she was sexy as hell and used her bewitching violet eyes to do stop people in their tracks. It's no wonder to me that they cast her as Cleopatra... she almost lived like a modern day Cleo. I do like this picture of her when she is 50, I know nothing about her real feelings about her age, but just looking at this one image she seems to be pleased with the glamor and beauty and being surrounded by people, but there is something in those violet eyes that holds a slight sigh and I wish I knew what she was staring off into the distance at.

Grace Kelly



Grace Kelly has always been a favorite actress of mine. I love the picture of her on the left. There is something about the expression in her face that in my opinion is the purest expression of a woman: She holds a confidence in her body language- the way she holds herself that she is aware of her beauty and her womanhood, she is aware of the battles of men and women, she is happy with life and smiles with her eyes, and she is strong but there is a subtle sadness in her mouth of heartbreak that she never forgets, but rarely reveals. Now just as much as I love looking at the picture of her as a young woman, I like the one where she is in her early 50's, no doubt, shortly before she died at age 53, because there is a beauty in her entire face- the way she genuinely smiles with her mouth that pushes her cheeks upwards and curves beneath her sparkling eyes. She seems to be at a place in life where she loves, and she is loved, and she has reached a point of contentment.

Audrey Hepburn



I love these pictures of Audrey Hepburn because in both she has the same genuine smile like someone just called her name and she turned her head in surprise and smiled at them. I love in the picture of her in her 50's that she does not try to hide her wrinkles or neck, that she stretches her slender neck out and has her hair pulled back to reveal her beautiful elf-like ears. That really is something I've always loved about Audrey Hepburn is that there's something almost fairy-like about her.... her bright big eyes, her smart eyebrows, her doll-like face atop a long slender neck.




Comments, Please :)


Friday, September 17, 2010

100 Hourglasses

I've been passionate about the female body for several years... I'm passionate about it because half the population has one, the other half idolizes it; and yet so few members of the population truly know about the female body, understand the beauties and frustrations that women face as a result of their body, or even recognize how gorgeous they are.

It frustrates me, being a woman in my early 20's, to talk with women in the prime of their lives utterly despising their body for one reason or another. The fact is, no matter how drop dead gorgeous other people find you, there's always at least one or two "flaws" that you wish you could change. We are never satisfied.

There a hundred different hourglasses. Tall, short, pear-shaped, upside down pear-shaped, delicate and fragile, organic and strong, and everything in between. It's no secret that the fashion world and the media hails only one hourglass: the tall and slender. Yet people IRL appreciate all one hundred hourglasses so long as they are healthy. Yet people don't have the authority in these matters, the media does.

I want the explore the hourglasses: research the female form from a biological and historical standpoint, talk to average women from adolescence, to young adult, to adults; I'll talk to men to get an even broader perspective on the issue, I will interview the experts; and I'll share my own personal experiences and opinions. Please, if you have any interest in becoming part of the Hourglass Symposium, let me know! I would love to interview you and get your perspective on the female forms.